Kinky November Day 4: Hair-Pulling
Nov. 4th, 2014 02:24 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
beta_vulgarisToday I'm going to highlight a specific kink--one of my favorites, hair-pulling :)
(Fabulous art used with permission from Allie Kleber, who can be found on On Tumblr and at alliekleber.com.)
Hair-pulling is one of those kinks that can really help ease me into a scene and set the stage. It is so versatile and combines so well with painplay and dominance play! I am a heavy switch and I love hair-pulling both as a top and as a bottom.
Depending on the approach of the top, you can set the tone for the scene really viscerally. I tend to find, personally, that a full grip of hair pulled firmly for several seconds near the roots at the back of the neck can help me relax into a pre-subspace, make me feel more pliant.
Conversely, a fistful of hair near the crown and top of my head, yanked, can be a sharper pain and can help wake my masochistic delight in pain. I like to hold people down or pull them into a particular position with a grip on their hair--using it as a positioning method or when I have the upper hand in a roughhousing scene is dirty and fun for everyone :) I have also seen hair-pulling deployed in negotiated takedown scenes and punishment to intense psychological effect.
Meanwhile, if you want to irritate someone or give them the sort of pain that might test their endurance for the kind of pain that many of us don't take so easily, you can pull at very small amounts of hair or individually pluck hairs :)
Hair bondage is incorporated into some ropework, and that can be very cool looking, too (I have not done that myself). People with long hair can be very fun, too, as their hair can be used to choke them (if you've consensually agreed to that ahead of time!).
For those of us into genital torture, some of the best hair to target isn't on our heads. Pulling on public hair can be a really good warmup before the clothespins come out, and home waxing kits could be put to imaginative use on some people I am sure.
Even for people who aren't into pain, gentle, slow hair-pulling can be a great scalp massage and point of close connection with a partner or just a gentle way to be nice to a friend. I often incorporate it into head massages. It is a really wonderful sensualist's kink when wielded this way.
The only kind of hair-pulling I have totally detested was the time we tried that 'self-adhering' bondage tape. Be warned--it also adheres to arm hair, and taking it off post-comedown is not the fun kind of ow.
Did I miss anything? Tell me about your hair-pulling feelings!
(Fabulous art used with permission from Allie Kleber, who can be found on On Tumblr and at alliekleber.com.)
Hair-pulling is one of those kinks that can really help ease me into a scene and set the stage. It is so versatile and combines so well with painplay and dominance play! I am a heavy switch and I love hair-pulling both as a top and as a bottom.
Depending on the approach of the top, you can set the tone for the scene really viscerally. I tend to find, personally, that a full grip of hair pulled firmly for several seconds near the roots at the back of the neck can help me relax into a pre-subspace, make me feel more pliant.
Conversely, a fistful of hair near the crown and top of my head, yanked, can be a sharper pain and can help wake my masochistic delight in pain. I like to hold people down or pull them into a particular position with a grip on their hair--using it as a positioning method or when I have the upper hand in a roughhousing scene is dirty and fun for everyone :) I have also seen hair-pulling deployed in negotiated takedown scenes and punishment to intense psychological effect.
Meanwhile, if you want to irritate someone or give them the sort of pain that might test their endurance for the kind of pain that many of us don't take so easily, you can pull at very small amounts of hair or individually pluck hairs :)
Hair bondage is incorporated into some ropework, and that can be very cool looking, too (I have not done that myself). People with long hair can be very fun, too, as their hair can be used to choke them (if you've consensually agreed to that ahead of time!).
For those of us into genital torture, some of the best hair to target isn't on our heads. Pulling on public hair can be a really good warmup before the clothespins come out, and home waxing kits could be put to imaginative use on some people I am sure.
Even for people who aren't into pain, gentle, slow hair-pulling can be a great scalp massage and point of close connection with a partner or just a gentle way to be nice to a friend. I often incorporate it into head massages. It is a really wonderful sensualist's kink when wielded this way.
The only kind of hair-pulling I have totally detested was the time we tried that 'self-adhering' bondage tape. Be warned--it also adheres to arm hair, and taking it off post-comedown is not the fun kind of ow.
Did I miss anything? Tell me about your hair-pulling feelings!
